Demetra Nyx 26-godišnja je seksualna trenerica koja za sebe kaže kako se oduvijek sramila menstruacije. Svjesna da taj problem imaju i mnoge druge djevojke odlučila se na neobičan potez – svakoga mjeseca menstrualnom krvlju premazuje lice i fotografira se za Instagram.
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My blood came today. Eighteen days late. I did not think I was pregnant. My body said: relax. Maybe it was a combination of sickness and antibiotics and herbs and late ovulation. Maybe it was that my body wanted to bleed with the full moon instead. For a year I have bled exactly with the new moon. They say that means nurturance. I wonder if it is a coincidence that I will bleed with the full moon just as I am beginning to create my business, this entire year’s worth of culmination, seven year’s worth of wisdom into one thing. Full moon is creativity, power. Today I sat on the ground and bled into the earth. In a dark red, velvet skirt. The clouds, the forest blowing wildly around me. It is this connection with nature that I know to be true most deeply. That the trees have me. That we are of each other. I MISSED bleeding. I didn’t realize how accustomed I had become to my cycle, to knowing my moods and my rhythms, until I was thrown off. My body was deeply missing this feeling of dreamy connectedness, this time of retreat. It was weird not to have it. My blood is magic. It is worth being celebrated. The wisdom of our wombs was taken from womxn a long time ago. I’ve taken mine back. Five years ago in the fall I was throwing up black. The trees did this same thing except it was raining. Today it felt like the completion of a cycle. I don’t know what that means yet, exactly; but it means something. Today I wonder how you connect to the inner part of you that knows. That knows you’re meant for more, to feel more, to be more, that this isn’t all there is for you. I have followed that part of me always and that has made all the difference. ❤️❤️🥀
Demetra Nyx svima želi pokazati kako je menstruacija prekrasna i moćna pa zato svakog mjeseca prikuplja krv u menstrualnu čašicu i premazuje se njome po licu.
‘Društvo nas uči da su menstruacije prljave i nelagodne’
Kako piše metro.co.uk, prvu je menstruaciju ova 26-godišnja seksualna trenerica dobila s 12 godina, a u tinejdžerskim godinama mjesečnicu je smatrala sramotnom. Nakon što je prestala koristiti kontracepcijsku spiralu, počela je pratiti svoj ciklus i njen stav o menstruaciji u potpunosti se promijenio. Na to sada želi potaknuti i druge djevojke i žene.
– Društvo nas uči da su menstruacije prljave i nelagodne. Reklame o higijenskim proizvodima govore o tome kako će nas oni učiniti mirisnima i čišćima, čime impliciraju da su prirodne funkcije našeg tijela odbojne. Žene koje se žale zbog grčeva često su viđene kao slabe i jadne, ponekada i od strane drugih žena. A od nas se očekuje da šutimo o tome i pravimo se da ne postoji. (…) U sebi čuvamo puno srama i većina nas to ne shvaća dok ne krenemo istraživati svoje tijelo. Naša menstruacija čaroban je dio mjeseca koji ima nevjerojatnu moć, a društvo nas udaljava od te misli. Dijeljenje fotografija krvi na mome licu i tijelu bio je impuls – stvarala sam seriju kako bih pomogla ženama da se povežu sa svojim menstrualnim ciklusom, kazala je za metro.co.uk Demetra.
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I used to spend my time worrying about what other people thought of me. I used to keep lists as a 12-year-old: what are all the ways in which I could be more attractive? What are all the ways in which I could make that person like me? How could I make my body more acceptable? How could I hide my blood, my skin, my wrinkles, my fat? In my twenties, the focus on my appearance shifted, but the root of where I spent my energy was the same. It was still spent on forming an image that would make other people approve of me. The one with the strongest body. The one that was peaceful and positive. The one who was a good student, the one who was a good teacher, the one who was fun and bubbly but not too loud. The one who could hold all of her emotions and was always working to get rid of her bad feelings. You have it too, don’t you? The one who is a good mom. The one who is a good daughter. The one who eats the healthiest. The one who is a good person. The one who has the most money. It was the same, though. The focus was different but it was still the same. It was still: how could I make sure the people whose opinions I cared about approved of me? And yet. It turns out none of that was ever necessary. I don’t do anything I do now for anyone’s approval. I don’t care about being seen as strong or successful or pretty or important. I also do not care if I am seen as jealous or angry or insecure or hurt or selfish or loud. Because what I have gained on this journey, finally, is the deepest love and total approval of my Self. What if you deeply, truly loved and *approved* of yourself? That is why I post my blood. It is a little to liberate other women and a lot to please my Self. I get so much pleasure from this ritual and I love feeling so free to share it and I love not caring what the reactions will be. That is how I live my whole life, now. If you want to heal in this way. If you want to learn this. SHAMELESS – my 6-week one-on-one coaching program for women is open for registration from now until November 27th. There are 3 spots available. Are you brave enough to claim yours? Message me xx
Negativni komentari kao dokaz da se o temi treba razgovarati
Komentari na njene fotografije su raznoliki – jedni joj zahvaljuju na razbijanju tabua oko menstruacije dok se drugi zgražaju nad njenim objavama.
Demetra se negativnima ne zamara već ih vidi kao potvrdu toga da se o menstruaciji i ljudskom tijelu treba još više razgovarati.
– Dobila sam puno više pozitivnih nego negativnih komentara. Smatram da su žene dosegle točku u kojoj žele voljeti svoja tijela i iznijeti na svjetlo dana ove tabu-teme. Zaprepašćujuće je koliko nam je neugodno prikazati se svijetu onakvima kakve jesmo i želim biti prenositelj te poruke, zaključuje Demetra.
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Just a reminder that some days are so painful that all you do is cry and lie in bed but then some days you can cover yourself in blood and dance around the house and are about to launch your podcast and have moved to Southern California where it almost never rains and are making thousands of dollars talking to people about topics that freak most of humanity out and LIFE IS SO GREAT! (That is my reminder to myself. My reminder to you is that you can be whoever you want. And the people who love you will find you always. And the people who don’t will leave. And you can say bye forever because it is way more fun being true to yourself!!!)